Problems with Confrontation
Several weeks ago I had a session with a young man who wanted to work on the relationship he has with his brother. With both brothers in their late twenties, he reported that they rarely speak at the moment and when they do it becomes very uncomfortable, very tense, and so to prevent an argument, he will surrender ground, placate his brother and try to see the situation out.
He reported that with Christmas coming up, he would like to be able to improve their relationship.
To start the session I explained that part of my role of guiding him through the Hudson Mind Process© was to help him learn how his mind works, and to show him what causes him to feel the way he is feeling, and more importantly, how he can become the person he wants to be. I introduced him to his ‘screen’, this is a below conscious area that the mind uses to inform the system as to what is going on. I explained that we each have our own individual screen, and that whatever happens on screen, will determine how the brain responds, and this will therefore determine how he feels.
As an example, I explained that if he were to think of a loved one, on this below conscious screen, there will likely be a bright happy and positive image, the brain will then respond to the image and flood him full of chemicals that make him feel good.
If however, something happened in the past, that could be considered negative or traumatic, the mind will store this information on screen, and the brain will respond to this and flood the nervous system full of a different set of chemicals, and if these chemicals are flowing around the body for any length of time, it can lead to a myriad of chronic health conditions, ranging from anxiety, depression, irritable bowel syndrome (IBS), or chronic pain.
I then explained that if we could help him access his screen, he would then be able to change the information in that below conscious area in a way that promotes him to feel the way he wants to, in this case more confident and to be able to stand up for himself.
At the beginning, he was completely unaware that whenever he talked about his problem, his eyes would dart off to the exact same spot each time. However, after pointing this out, the next time he began talking about his problem, he caught himself as his eyes darted off to that same spot, which inevitably, brought on the expression of “that’s really weird, how funny!”, which was then followed by a big laugh.
As we continued chatting, I asked him what happened when he was in different contexts, such as at work or with other people. His eyed that darted up to that same spot again and he reported that a similar thing happens. From here, we managed to get more specific and found out that this particular problem was not his relationship with his brother; it was about his response whenever he was in a confrontation.
Interesting!
As we discussed confrontation, bingo! His eyes darted once again to that same spot, and he noticed that he began feeling hot, a bit sweaty, and he became aware of his heart beating quickly.
Through the Hudson Mind Process©, we were able to help him access the information stored in ‘that spot’, and he identified that there was an image there. This is what’s known as an Emotional Memory Image©.
Using some simple guidance, he was able to change the Emotional Memory Image©, and after some chuckles and laughter, the image disappeared… His screen was clear!!
Following this, there was an immediate change in physiology. There was a slow deep breathe, a softening of the face, and after just a few minutes, he reported feeling lighter and calmer.
When we were able to catch up yesterday, he was happy to report that he has been feeling more confident, generally communicating better, and he has been able to chat to his brother and feel more at ease. We have a session coming up in December where we will delve deeper into how the mind works.
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